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I AM SO OVER THIS 'SAD STRIPPER' TROPE IT'S NOT EVEN FUCKING FUNNY.

Jacq

I found this music video. It made me so angry I wanted to vomit.

Behold, another sad girl who 'drinks all day, dances all night.' She's sad; she misses her daddy; she's a cutter; her boss is abusive and *gasp* she does drugs.

This is the story line of Beech's new music video, Dance for the Money.
 

About four seconds into it, I want to throw my laptop across the room.

First of all, if we're dancing all night, we are also probably drinking at the same time. During the day, we are SLEEPING. BECAUSE WE ARE TIRED FROM DANCING FOR YOUR JUDGY SELF.

This sad stripper trope has got to stop.

Right now I'm an ANGRY MOTHERFUCKING STRIPPER.

I don't even KNOW that many sad strippers. Most of the strippers I know are hilarious, independent, crass, and pissed-the-fuck-OFF at this endless misrepresentation of our job. But how many ANGRY STRIPPERS are there in movies, music videos, tv shows, books....? There aren't any. There are only sad ones.

Marisa Tomei in The Wrestler

Marisa Tomei in The Wrestler

Darryl Hannan in The Blue Iguana

Darryl Hannan in The Blue Iguana

Elizabeth Berkley in Showgirls

Elizabeth Berkley in Showgirls

Why are we so sad, Beech?

Because you want us to hate feeling sexy, empowered, independent and YES - objectified?

Is it too intimidating if we willingly commodify our bodies, and turn a nice profit off it?

Or is a sad girl walking down the street in sweatpants, getting cat-called and NOT making any money  just not interesting enough for VH1?

IS THE ONLY EMOTION THAT COULD POSSIBLY COME FROM MAKING MONEY OFF OUR FINITE YOUTH AND BEAUTY... SADNESS? IS THAT IT? THAT MUST BE IT.

Or are you just PROJECTING ALL YOUR SHIT ONTO US? Are you terrified of the possibility that stripping could be FUN?


Don't fucking pity me.
PAY ME.

If you hung out with a stripper and just sulked in the corner like you do in the video, THAT STRIPPER IS GOING TO WHOOP YOUR ASS FOR BEING SUCH A GRUMPY GUS AND NOT TIPPING ACCORDINGLY.
 

BUT WAIT! There is MORE:


I don't know HOW I watched it, but there is a 'behind the scenes' video.

 

Some things I learned:

- This is what inspired the song: "We walked past a strip club every day, and it just looked really depressing. We actually talked to them..." (no mention of what they talked about)
- The women they cast as the sad strippers are all smiling while on set!
- THE LEAD SINGER CAST HIS WIFE AS THE SADDEST PROTAGONIST-GIRL. She was on Degrassi! Husband describes Wife's character as "A runaway. She wanted to be a dancer. But she didn't fulfill her dream and so she became a stripper... and a prostitute... and a heavy drug user." Shenae Grimes totally married him for his Originality.

 

BUT WAIT. There is even MORE:
 

HE DIDN'T WANT TO CAST HER AS THE LEAD, but Shenae Grimes was SO PASSIONATE that, finally, she TRICKED HER CONTROLLING HUSBAND INTO LETTING HER BE THE SAD STRIPPER HE THOUGHT HE MAYBE TALKED TO ONCE AND IS NOW MAKING A MUSIC VIDEO ABOUT.
 

But, Shenae tells us: "He was a little hesitant about me playing a stripper, so we changed some of the storyline a little bit, so the 'stripping' part is actually done by other people."
 

Heaven forbid Shenae shows off her body for anyone but her Original Husband!


Dance for the Money is ONE GIANT MISINFORMED PITY PARTY FOR A PROFESSION BEECH CLEARLY DOES NOT EVEN TRY UNDERSTAND, OR RESPECT.

Beech, I hope your label paid the dancers enough SINCE NONE OF YOUR BAND MEMBERS APPEAR TO HAVE TIPPED ANY OF THEM IN THE VIDEO.
 

Beech is going to keep making shitty videos like this one. And there are a lot of Beeches out there.

WE NEED TO CHANGE THIS. WE NEED TO BE LOUDER. WE CAN BE ANGRY, HAPPY, SILLY, AND EVEN SAD SOMETIMES. BUT THIS SAD STRIPPER TROPE IS SO DATED, TWO-DIMENSIONAL AND INSULTING THAT I CANNOT STOP USING CAPS LOCK.